Guide to understanding the introvert [Infographic]

the introvert

I personally say no to this. My opinion is, introverts should learn to interact rather than sitting there waiting for others to break the ice. What this infographic is saying, is, please act differently to accommodate introverts as you would for a mentally disabled person or a 3 year-old. If you’re an introvert, I’m sorry, but it had to be said; don’t expect others to change for you, take control of your life in your own hands.

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  1. Tom

    It’s amusing that extroverts seem compelled to distinguish their socio-enslavement as a desirable trait.

    So if it’s non committal relationships your after, find an extrovert who is attuned to seeking praise from others. As the graphic so clearly illustrates, extroverts thrive to suck energy off of others for self-gratification.

    In contrast, introverts don’t seek out shallow, superficial “friends”… (Hello Facebook, I have 4, 263 friends), but seek deep relationships that embody what man was made to be.

    If you are seeking authenticity, look no further than to an “introvert”.

  2. stilofilos

    [@Louis]
    Another ‘like’ from me, too.
    I fully agree , but couldn’t have said it better.
    Most of all that extrovertism comes down to just some senseless blablabla, not even inspriring to a reaction. But sometimes it is really needed to bite back, and you did it in a perfect way.
    B.t.w. I appreciated your interventions at some other occasions as well. Thanks man !

  3. Louis

    [@Seamus McSeamus] [@Midwest guy] [@Raeldin] [@Hart] I second all of the above, being a private person (i.e. neither introvert, nor extrovert, generally quiet by nature, unless I choose to be otherwise when I feel like it, no corners needed, can be outspoken when necessary), and always respecting other’s personal space, whether of ‘introverts’ or of ‘extroverts'(personally don’t believe in that distinction).

    I actually laughed at first when reading the posting, assuming this was another of the comedy pieces here on dotTech ….until I saw the closing paragraph and realised some misguided inexperienced lost soul thought it necessary to give a little sermon : “please act differently to accommodate introverts as you would for a mentally disabled person or a 3 year-old. If you’re an introvert, I’m sorry, but it had to be said; don’t expect others to change for you, take control of your life in your own hands.”

    Really ???!!!! Idiots like this still exist ? If you’re the writer, I’m sorry, but it had to be said; don’t expect others to change for you, go get some more life experience.

    On the topics of extroverts : Many of my good long-term (decades long) friends are extroverts, many are introverted, these friendships being entirely based on their character and integrity (which is completely unrelated by whether a person is introverted or extroverted).

    In other words, being an extrovert or an introvert is merely a facet of your personality, and says absolutely nothing about your character, integrity, mentality, possession of good manners or any other good qualities, and especially no indicator of your level of insight in how to deal with different kinds of people, directly or in a social environment.

    Certainly you can take the following to the bank : Unlike what the closing paragraph suggest, extroverts are in no single way ever superior to introverts, or vice versa. Therefore, if any little mind should consider acting towards any other person as if to a 3 year old, just because of how the little mind perceives that other person (who very possibly possesses a far greater mind, it has to be said !), such little mind deserves no less than “speak to the hand”” and “pick a finger”.

    This insight doesn’t always come naturally to some, in many cases it only arrives with time, and in other cases never arrive !

    Not all people are squarely introverted or extroverted either — Mr Self-styled Extrovert (that apparently never experienced being quiet), that person which you labelled as an introvert, which you think has “shrunk” into a corner because he/she has failed to warm up to your majestic magnificence, may simply be a otherwise quite affable and normal person that chooses to be reserved and friendly to everyone, until being amongst those he/she doesn’t regard as being either arrogant, or an arsehole, or very likely both.

    Moral of the story : Be careful about putting a label on somebody else, you may soon run out of friends. After all, you’re no Sigmund, are you ? Ever considered that “those 3 year olds” …. heaven forbid … may just simply…. not like you ? Arrogance = digging your own grave.

    Finally, here’s a quote to reflect upon :
    It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to open one’s mouth and remove all doubt
    (Abraham Lincoln).

  4. Vamien McKalin
    Author/

    [@Hart] No need to say you’re sorry because you agree to an opinion, it’s how you feel. What is said is also my opinion, however wrong or right it is. The expecting to others to change bit is probably an overstatement or the wrong thing to say. But at the end of the day, my general consensus still stands.

  5. Hart

    [@Vamien McKalin] Vamien, I really do love some of your postings on DotTech…but I’m sorry to have to tell you, you either didn’t read what the information you posted on introverts actually said…or you really are, as Seamus suggests suggests, a self-righteous idiot! I’ll assume the latter: that you simply didn’t read — or understand — what the information actually said. Why would you assert I — or any other introvert — wants (much less expects) you/anyone else to change? I do not! In fact, it seems the only one expecting change is you…expecting me and my fellow introverts to change to meet your thinking about what we should be like.

    And Fred, I hope you’re not suggesting that an introvert is a ‘socially awkward’ person.

    Here’s a suggestion: Google “famous introverts” What you find might be enlightening.

  6. WildCat

    Just my two cents… Human beings are not all the same and should not all be treated identically, like clones. Everyone should be treated equally with respect. Respect their personal space if that’s what they wish, respect their opinions, respect their beliefs. This doesn’t mean you have to agree with them, but you can still respect them.

    Difference, at least to me here, is like the difference between a conservative and a liberal…
    If a conservative doesn’t like guns, he doesn’t buy one. If a liberal doesn’t like guns, he wants all guns outlawed.

    If a conservative is a vegetarian, he doesn’t eat meat. If a liberal is a vegetarian, he wants all meat products banned for everyone.

    If a conservative doesn’t like a talk show host, he switches channels. Liberals demand that those they don’t like be shut down.

    If a conservative is a non-believer, he doesn’t go to church. A liberal non-believer wants any mention of God and religion silenced.

    A conservative believes in the freedom of speech, First Amendment, even if he disagrees with what you are saying or what your beliefs are. A liberal will demand that those whose speech, or beliefs, they don’t like forcefully be shut down, and will call that person or group racist or prejudiced in the press for expressing their beliefs. ( Eg. Think of when Miss California was asked about gay marriage by Perez Hilton in the Miss America Pageant. )

    A classic example of respectful conservatism to me is this quote by John Wayne, concerning Jane Fonda and her speaking out against US involvement in Vietnam… “I’ve known Jane Fonda since she was a little girl. I’ve never agreed with a word she’s said, but would give my life defending her right to say it.”

    A couple of other classic examples of respectful conservatism to me are these quotes by Martin Luther King Jr. – Concerning religion vs. science: “Science keeps religion from sinking into the valley of crippling irrationalism and paralyzing obscurantism.” … Concerning the different roles religion and government play in society: “The church must be reminded that it is not the master or the servant of the state, but rather the conscience of the state. It must be the guide and the critic of the state, and never its tool.”

    I am not Hindu, Buddhist, or Muslim, and do not hold with their religious beliefs. But I can still respect the men, and the wise words of Ghandi, the Dalai Lama or Khan Abdul Ghaffar Khan. ( If you have not heard of the last man I mentioned here, be sure to look him up. He was the Muslim religious leader of the Pathan people of Afghanistan and Pakistan, the “non violent soldiers of Islam”. )

    Like I said, just my two cents… feel free to share yours.

  7. Fred

    Consider that there’s a difference among people who display sociopathic personality disorder, social maladjustment/awkwardness and introversion. An arrogant individual who attempts to impose themselves upon a socially awkward person will likely not try to appreciate the differentiation between maladjusted behavior and introversion. An introverted person is a lot easier to encourage to communicate. Sociopathological and maladjusted people will require astute and informed approaches.

  8. Vamien McKalin
    Author/

    [@Midwest guy] I am the “whoever” dear sir. Anyway, everyone needs company now and again including introverts. So an introvert who gets lonely should just sink away in a corner instead of making the effort? I shouldn’t have to make the effort myself due to an introvert’s life choice.

    I’ve come across introverts in the past, who went completely silent when I make an attempt to break the ice. Now, the infographic says one must not take silence as an insult, but that’s bs. If a person says hello or ask a question, then greet them back or something. Don’t act indifferent and expect others to accept it with a smile. Grown introverts are not children and thus must not be treated as such. It doesn’t matter if you want to be left alone, show some respect to the people around you, because one thing is for certain, we all don’t have the ability to read minds.